Last night’s reading in John Ortberg’s Soul Keeping touched on grace and humility in a powerful way. He recounted a discussion with Dallas Willard on being challenged by someone in a very negative way and just letting it go. Willard replied:
“Being right is actually a very hard burden to be able to carry gracefully and humbly. That’s why nobody likes to sit next to the kid in class who’s right all the time. One of the hardest things in the world is to be right and not hurt other people with it.” Dallas Willard
He went on to say that he was practicing the discipline of not having to have the last word.
Not that any of us are right all the time – or even often. But when we are, how do we carry it? How do we help bring people along to get to the right answer together. How do we let go of the need to have the last word. What a great reminder to stay focused on the words we choose, our attitude, our approach. At the end of the day we leave a wake of both relationships and results, so getting to the right answers and results in relationship with others is critical if we want both our results and our relationships to be strong.
For me, sometimes its more nature to focus on our approach in one setting and not another. What about you – do you do best at leading with grace and humility (even when you are right) with your partner, your kids, your team at work?